Nichayathartham

Before the bride and the groom heads to the marriage hall, an elderly lady walks past them holding a pot of water.

The following items are arranged beautifully:Beetel leaves, Banana Betel Nuts. The decked up Thamboolam is placed near a lighted Kuthuvillaku
The bride should be seated facing the East . Some 200-300g of verali mangal and vet pakku mixed in a thamboolam. Sholud be kept ready . 3 coconuts smeared with turmeric should also be kept ready
The mother-in-law gifts the engagement saree to the bride. She is expected to drape the new sari gifted by her Mother in law and is seated facing East
After being seated facing East she holds the Betel Nut and turmeric pieces inbetween her palms and places it back and forth on the Thamboolam three times . The third time she gifts theBetel Nut and Turmeric with a coconut to three ladies close to the family . Two from bride’s side and one from groom’s side
This ritual is repeated thrice
As times have changed and to save time these rituals are performed on the previous day of the marriage.

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Pandakkal or mutharakalnatal

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